It is a matter of hovering that bothers me.
Throughout parents’ lives, we watch our babies become
children, then children becoming teenager (God help us), and teenagers moving
onto different stages of life. Then they
complete a circle, which is repeated for millennia.
I have been and still am a hover-er. Children, etc., grandchildren, and my
husband. He resents my hovering, but
there it is.
As a teacher, one can see hove-ers all over the
classroom. I can understand certain
issues that need a hover-er. But there are
other issues that prevent a student from being able to grow as a student. Oh, well.
That was in the past.
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See this lilac plant, hopefully growing to be a
bush? I have hovered over him for nine
months. Planted in bad soil. Desert heat.
Lack of water. Replanted in good
soil. Cold winter winds.
And now? He just
might make it.
See this geranium?
When we moved here in August, this was dying, with stems drying. Lots of hovering to bring her from the brink
of death.
Now, my adult kids are hovering over us. I hate it.
But I can understand why they are the hover-ers Are we on the eve of destruction?
It’s a circle of life thing.
You're telling it like it too often is, Susan. We invest so much time in our children's well-being that we stand on the brink of hovering. The same goes for other things, too. Maybe, the best thing we can do is to let go and let God. Blessings!
ReplyDeleteI was not a hoverer of my kids, which means they are not hovering over me and I could use someone to hover. which means there is good and bad in both hovering and not hovering... Let them hover and be glad they are, I could use a good hoverer right now
ReplyDeleteMy parents were not big hoverers so I have tried to do the same for them. I do try to text my father every day since he's alone now.
ReplyDeleteYep, it is hard for a parent to know when hovering is not NEEDED! There were times I should have hovered and didn't. Both our sons got involved in drugs in their teens. I still feel the guilt because it 'stunted' both lives to a point, even come back to haunt one in his 60s. It knocks you off your feet. Perfect parents are hard to find, methinks. ;-(
ReplyDeleteSome need to be hovered over. Others react badly to this.The trick is to know the difference. (I'd like to think I do, but I'm sure I don't.)
ReplyDeleteIt's a difficult balance to strike, to know when to let them make mistakes and learn from them, and when to step in.
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