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| Never ever forget |
Most people would call up shared memories such as the birth of their children or maybe seeing a parent after a long time. No, my memories would be more plebeian and consequently more peculiar.
I would access the memory of an autumn day in my sophomore year at high school. The bus had dropped me off in front of our farm house, and I walked beneath towering maple trees shedding their leaves. My hand reached for the door, and I stepped into the warm kitchen, where my mother was washing dishes.
On the table, cooling from the oven was the entire head of a full grown hog.
On the table, cooling from the oven was the entire head of a full grown hog.
hogs had been rooting in the mud and muck and eating from the feeder.
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| Bonding time You have no idea how awful this smells. |
The remains of long dead hog was there and the head had just been roasted in the oven. The rest of the hog was cut into various roasts and chops, wrapped in white butcher paper resting comfortably in the freezer.
In just a few words, Mom sensed my discomfort. My mother was the ultimate pragmatist, which served her well throughout her life on the farm.
She pulled out two very large crocks and set them in front of the cooling head. “Wanta get a snack before you start taking off the meat and skin?”
She pulled out two very large crocks and set them in front of the cooling head. “Wanta get a snack before you start taking off the meat and skin?”
I indicated that I wasn’t hungry. “Well, change your clothes and wash up. You’re gonna strip the head of meat and put it in this crock. Put the skin and what-not in this other crock. Don’t mix them up.”
She went on to tell me that this meat was for mincemeat pies, the great nummy pies for which she was so famous.
What??
Mom would take this meat, chop it up, mix it with God-knows-what-else-meat-discards and candied fruit, can it in quart jars, and set them in the pantry. Then we would feast on mincemeat pie at Christmas time. Here is a recipe, but not my mom's:
What??
Mom would take this meat, chop it up, mix it with God-knows-what-else-meat-discards and candied fruit, can it in quart jars, and set them in the pantry. Then we would feast on mincemeat pie at Christmas time. Here is a recipe, but not my mom's:
Click on the above to access this recipe.
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| Well done! |
Mom even sent a jar to my 7th grade teacher, who waxed eloquently about this hog-filled pie filling.
I had never known what we were eating and enjoying.
Sooo, when I set to the task by tearing off the ears and then cutting off the snout and ears, Mom said, “Oh, put those here in this jar. I will pickle those; your father loves that.” I just about up-chucked. (apparently the hog's trotters had met the same fate.)
It didn’t get much better as the process when on. Poke out the eyes. Tear off the jowl meat. Strip the muscles from the back of the neck. On and on. I do not recall what she said to do with the brain; I was pretty numb by then.
The science part of my own brain appreciated how God put together muscles and ligaments, attaching them to bones. The fifteen year old farm girl in me was on the verge of vomiting.
All in all, it stands out as a strong, indelible memory, now nearly 50 years old. What is yours?
This is a repost of a repost, first in 2015 and then in 2017. Some bloggers will probably remember it. But I wanted others to enjoy the experience. Just writing and making some changes brings back all those memories with its smells, textures, and images.
I hope this can change your life. It sure did mine.
All in all, it stands out as a strong, indelible memory, now nearly 50 years old. What is yours?
P.S. I haven't eaten mincemeat pie for years. But, the store-jar versions are meat free, fully vegan, so maybe now?
This is a repost of a repost, first in 2015 and then in 2017. Some bloggers will probably remember it. But I wanted others to enjoy the experience. Just writing and making some changes brings back all those memories with its smells, textures, and images.
I hope this can change your life. It sure did mine.





Don't think I could handle that. I can see why this would be a memory you would never forget. I probably won't forget this post. :)
ReplyDeleteI am glad that this post has given you some memory to recall.
DeleteI haven't eaten mince pies in years (long before I moved to the vegetarian side of the street).
ReplyDeleteMy parents were pragmatists too, and if they had access to a pigs head it would undoubtely have been used in similar ways.
My memories are snippets rather than whole scenes. And my memory banks are full (and as disorganised as the rest of my life).
Most memories come in snippets, I think. Mine are detailed which sometimes is a hard.
DeleteAs far as the Little Princess is concerned, if it doesn’t come in a poly bag from the grocery store, it doesn’t get cooked or eaten 😄 I have never had mincemeat pie, and after reading this, probably never will. 😄
ReplyDeleteThat is probably a good idea.
DeleteI can see why this is your strongest memory. I am a fairly adventurous eater but I do not think that I ever had mincemeat. I would go for the real thing if I ever tried it.
ReplyDeleteGo for it. Not knowing my story, you probably will think it is pretty excellent.
DeleteI do have memories of my father chasing us as we squealed in disgust. All the while he held out pickled herring for us to sample. He also loved pickled pigs feet. Before I get a lot of comments he was only teasing us and we were delighted to be teased. But pickled herring? Ick!
ReplyDeleteMy dad loved picked pigs feet. As an adult, I tried some and just about threw up.
DeleteYour dad sounds like my brothers. Fun times, not.
I thought this one seemed familiar!
ReplyDeleteA meaningful memory in so many ways. Sometimes it's best not to know what you're eating.
Yes, that is true. Bad memories there.
DeleteMy grandpa and grandma (Mom's side) were hog farmers. As a kid, I saw my share of fresh pig heads sitting on the ledge of the carport while adults tended the rest of the body. It was used for head cheese. No mincemeat in my family. My other grandpa (Dad's side) always had a jar of pickled pigs' feet in his fridge, but I never saw the hog farmers eat a pig's foot.
ReplyDeleteOh, your experience is worse than mine. Seeing the horror first off must be a memory you cannot dump.
DeleteI don't think I could have handled that! It was bad enough helping mum each year with the poultry she raised and sold at Christmas. Off with their heads! Hang them to bleed, then dip into boiling water and pluck out the feathers. The boys got to do the gutting and cutting off the feet. Late at night mum would wrap them all individually and mark them with the names of the recipients ready to be delivered the next day. Chickens, ducks and geese.
ReplyDeleteI always buy the store jars of mince which is fruit with a tiny bit of suet, then start making test batches of mini pies around mid November, then the first week of December I make the ones that get sent to friends. For family I wait until Christmas week to make them.
I did the chicken slaughter as well. Never forgot it, will never ever do it again. You poor thing.
DeleteGiven that task, I would have run away and never, ever eaten bacon again.
ReplyDeleteMy mother liked mincemeat pies and baked them for the holidays. She got the whole pie for herself as there were no other takers.
Somehow there wasn't a connection to bacon for me. It was the other end of the hog.
DeleteNever had Minced meat as I recall. I was very fortunate during Hog Killing time I was a city country boy. Daddy always raised a hog but it was a community thing, the hog killing and prep. It was a time of playing with a blown up bladder, playing tag and warming around the outside fire that heated the water in the huge barrel. I might a felt different had I been involved, but that was community grown up work. I do know mama used most of the head meat & liver for 'Livermush' a delicacy we love to this day but is known only in this section of the country.
ReplyDeleteGrandson moved to Knoxville, his first e-mail was: We have moved to a third world country they have never heard of livermush!
Love ya
Sherry & jack
Now I have to find out what livermush is. I have a feeling it is off my to-eat-someday list.
DeleteOkay, I looked up livermush and it is truly awful. Pig liver, meat from head, and cornmeal, seasoned with pepper and sage are used. Livermush from NC is said to be coarser, which is where you live. AND there are Livermush Festivals!
DeleteOh yes..I remember this story. I have never liked mincemeat so...no worries....you didn't ruin it for me lol.
ReplyDeleteThat makes me feel like you are one of many.
DeleteI feel queasy just reading this. I could not have done any of that at 15. I would have lost it. I'm very queasy about those things generally.
ReplyDeleteOn a farm, a girl gets ready to do amazing stuff, but this one was beyond the pale.
DeleteOh. My. Word. Now I've got your most iconic memory in MY head! Gag. ;)
ReplyDeleteLike I said, some memories are like super glue.
DeleteTywin Lannister from Game of thrones strips a hog rather expertly as he gives his son Jamie a peptalk. It was pretty darn impressive and while the pig never complained, it looked so real the way Dance sliced those layers of meat off.
ReplyDeleteThe day before filming, Tywin/Charles Dance was shown how to do it and had that experience. the next day he sliced it apart proficiently.
DeleteNo hog heads for me
ReplyDeleteWise decision.
DeleteYeah, that moment would sure stick out for me over much else.
ReplyDeleteYup.
DeleteMy folks never greeted me with that, but saw plenty of cow's tongue, head cheese, and blood pudding...
ReplyDeleteNo one can imagine seeing your list. Most grossest ever.
DeleteGood grief. I left you a LONG comment and it disappeared in the ether. I explained that I had helped kill chickens one year, remove the feathers, clean and cut them up, but never anything like you experienced.
ReplyDeleteI also mentioned that my grandmother made mincemeat pies every year at Christmas, but she got her meat from the butcher. No wonder you will never forget that experience.
Hearing that other bloggers have memories like mine is amazing, and funny.
DeleteI can see why that memory would stick in your mind.
ReplyDeleteIt is just like it was yesterday.
DeleteYour mother sounds amazing. And I would have been much like you! A different time, wasn't it? And maybe better -- although the thing about the pigs feet... not so much!
ReplyDeleteThanks, as always, for your visits to the Marmelade Gypsy. I always smile when I see you there!
Visiting your site is always interesting, I enjoy that.
DeleteMy father cut a slice of pickled pigs feet for me to taste. After I stopped gagging, he was laughing.
best about this is that you have this memory as a strongest one within your mind Susan :)
ReplyDeletei enjoyed the story as whole
specially the description of your mom's dress sounds as it happened while ago
you are amazing!
It is peculiar what the brain grabs and then hold onto.
DeleteYep, that one would have stuck with me too. I knew if I ever had to dissect in science class that I was going to feign sickness to get out of class. I am a vegetarian, and always have been (my mom used to fight with me to eat meat). I think it's in no small part that my brain couldn't get past the fact that the food was a real live animal, not long before. I'm still a wimpy wimp that way.
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