Tuesday, April 3, 2012

C is for Change

Let's see...spring forward...fall back...dammit.

The day this was written was the “time change day”, the spring forward an hour.  Everyone and their brothers hate this one.  The fall back day is fine with most people, but it takes weeks to adjust to this new hour forward change.

Most people aren’t happy with change in any form.  As a people, we like our schedules and routines:  Coffee at a certain time;  Leaving work at the right time;  Eating our comfort foods. 
Pretty straight forward

We are creatures of habit, and change is an irritant, a grain of sand in a place that can’t be reached.
Years ago at a school where I taught, a new math curriculum was introduced.  “Changing to conceptual understanding will help students…”

A fellow teacher stated (about the integration of that fancy new math curriculum), “Change is good!”  Trying to be positive, I guess.
I'm with 'ya, kid.

After two years of using an expensive, cutting-edge curriculum, students couldn’t add or subtract.  Another program quietly took its place.

Change is sometimes painful.  And expensive.

Okay...I see where you're going with this....not sure I want to...
My mother died one year ago today.  Yes, April 3rd, 2011.  I had received a photo of Mom on Valentine’s Day when she was voted “Queen of Valentine’s Day” at her care facility.  She glowed with joy and pleasure, and she was beautiful. 

Then, six weeks later, I stood by her bedside, holding her hand.  The woman in the bed was my mother, but she wasn’t.  Pneumonia combined with COPD had melted her down to a pale faded leaf, ready to be blown away.  When Mom took her final breaths, change happened.
I am just learning more about the procedures of posting photos and copyright infringement.  Forgive me, photographers, for my slow learning curve.

Her generation is leaving the stage, and now my generation has moved up to take its place.  The whole damn queue is moving up with us, waiting in the wings for their turn.

No, change is inevitable.

How about you?  Are you one who thrives with change?  Or one who fights, kicking and screaming, when change happens?


  1. Susan sorry to hear about your mother. You are right change is happening all the time, and I think the more we embrace it the more beauty in the world we can see. Stay blessed, Amanda

  2. I'm one who loves change and as you've noted, I'm in the minority. Every day is an adventure and I never know what will happen. I live in Narnia where Aslan has given me the signs to follow and a mission to accomplish. So sorry to hear about your mother. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

  3. So sorry to hear about your Mom...
    Change? You may as well relax and enjoy the ride.

  4. I am facing the death of my dearest husband (he has terminal cancer) change SUCKS... But we continue to find the things in life that we do like, including SOME change....just don't like ALL of it.

    Mimi Torchia Boothby Watercolors

  5. I'm sad that you lost your mother but glad you were with her.
    Change in schools - why do our kids have to be the guinea-pigs for the latest change? Mine were lucky just to miss the phonetic spelling craze, but now my son is struggling to understand his own son's maths. I learned long division and it still works - what happened to that?

  6. Sorry about your mother.
    Good post. Change really is inevitable.

  7. Susan, you have beautifully captured many kinds of changes. Death is indeed the most difficult one. Like your mother, mine too was but a leaf of herself at the end, at age 97. I see myself inch by inch getting closer to that final day on earth. A few more lines on one's face, etc. As for the "time" change -- for me the fall back is the most difficult because I like the longer sunny days, and feel mildly depressed at the darkening days that are shorter here on the East coast than on the West.
    Ann Best, Author of In the Mirror & Other Memoirs

    1. Ann, I tried to comment on your film noir posts, but got rejected! Anyway, thanks for writing.

  8. I do pretty well with change, though as I age and my body wants certain creature comforts, I guess I don't roll with it quite as easily.

    Hugs to you on a day of memories. Mothers are special people. I've not yet had to deal with the loss so can only imagine the well of emotion.

  9. Depends on what the change is, but it has to come so I try to embrace it most times. Although I hate the stinkin spring time change.

  10. I can handle incremental change, or big change if it meets my approval. All the rest is usually fodder for fear or anxiety if my heart isn't in it. I am so sorry about your mom. Change because of death is the worst for those left behind.
    BTW, have you ever seen the youtube of Tom Lehrer's New Math?
    See if this works. It's hilarious. http://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=new+math+video+on+youtube&mid=97AEED3F5BBEF6B1775B97AEED3F5BBEF6B1775B&view=detail&FORM=VIRE1

  11. What a great, incremental layout. Starting with the clock, time and time change, weaving through changes and ending with change! Why, by the way, isn't all that bad and is going to happen.

  12. In facing death, there is 'some' comfort in the regular routine.

  13. I resist change for change sake...but have no problem changing when its purpose at least appears sound. :)

  14. Hi Susan,
    I'm sorry it has taken ages to get here and find out what you have been up too with the alphabet challenge. My internet service 'unprovider' has been conveniently shutting down for three hours over the last two nights. Yep, the time I was trying to leave a comment.
    Anyway, you can relax, I'm here :) And this beautifully written, thoughtful and emotive posting on "change" was a marvel to read. The way you go through various aspects of change and meaning, is something that I relate too.
    I know that battling through a negative environment, to try to live my life with realistic positive anticipation, rather than, negative speculation, was an inspirational change for the better.
    Thanks for this Susan.
    Have fun and take care.
    With respect, Gary

  15. Lovely post. I don't actively resist change, but my adaptive abilities are pretty slow :-)

    I'm sorry about your mom. That kind of first anniversary is hard. April 3rd is my dad's birthday. He died when I was 8.

  16. I'm so sorry about your mother.

    I don't mind change. Though spring forward doesn't agree with me much at all.

  17. I quite like change...it's exciting and sometimes scary. It does shake up my world and get me moving again. Change is definitely easier if I'm surprised by it. I adapt really quickly to new circumstances.

  18. I have a love/hate relationship with change. While I crave it on some levels, I don't want to go through it on another. I like the results (of positive change) I just don't like the adjusting that is required.

    Sorry to hear about your mom. I understand. It will be 5 years this November that my dad died. Now THAT'S a change I would gladly NOT have gone through.

    Happy Tuesday,

  19. I'm so sorry for your loss. You and I share something today. We both blogged about change.

  20. I'm sorry about your mom - that's tough.

    I'm not a person that likes change. I fight it and lose, but that's okay. I like that picture with the sign "Change Ahead". Sometimes I wish that life just had those signs where we could see them coming before changes happened.

  21. Change can be difficult as you get older, and it happens so quickly today. I was taught in school that products have a seven year life span, now, with technology, it is more like seven seconds. I can't keep up and it is sometimes discouraging. However, I do love daylight savings time. It brings more light into my life.

  22. What a powerful post on "change" you wrote. First, my thoughts are with you on this anniversary of your mom. Those are hard. I'm also with you on the daylight savings change. I have such a hard time with that! It takes weeks for me to get my body acclimated to the change in light. I do like the later evenings, but I really would rather just never change the time!
    I guess I like some changes (though I can't think of any at the moment!) but prefer things staying the same pretty much. I like predictable, I guess!
    The changes I dislike the most are related to teaching. When will they learn, those people who keep changing curriculum???

  23. To all who have commented here:

    Some of you relish change and some of you reluctantly go along with it. Change doesn't really give us much choice.

    Thank you all so much for your condolences.

  24. Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes! Good post.
    And, regarding copyright, I figure if a photographer protests, I'll remove it. I'm not making any money from it - if anything, I'm giving them free press.


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