Friday, March 26, 2021

Where is it now?

                          



My husband John is a brilliant man, one of those rocket-scientist types.  We talk about asteroids and volcanoes.  He will watch a DVD on math and calculus for fun.

But, God love him, he has that selective memory many smart men have.  They know about physics and the elements table, but cannot remember where they left the car keys or how to set the sprinkler system.  


Can anyone else say this:  The Things My Husband Has Lost!

While I was gone one time, he had to call an electrician.  He ‘helped’ the electrician as they searched for the cause of the problem, which was in my writing room.  To allow access to the outlets, John had cleared away all sorts of folders, binders, and assorted works-in-process.

Consequently, I have been searching for stuff for days.  Most important among those items was the Christmas cantata music our choir is practicing.  

 Man.  I tore apart every possible spot, every logical location that he might have placed my music tote bag. 

Huzzah.  That which was lost has been found.  John had placed the tote bag in with all the other reusable totes we keep, in a dark corner in the kitchen

His response when I found it?  “Really?!  In that corner?  That’s really funny!”

Funny?  Not funny.  However, John lives to teach another day. 


What about your spouse or partner?  Do you struggle with the urge to scream?

This is a repost from November 2011. It is one I could post while my hand heals. Please leave a comment,  I really need them.

left hand is better, have a new fiberglass cast, will get another one in two weeks, Do O/T.  I figure summer is the goal.

41 comments:

  1. Shouldn't that be part of the wedding vows? "I promise to love, honour and repress the urge to scream"?

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  2. I clicked send to email my friedn of 60 plus years and will copy the opening lines of the email.
    " I am so down and depressed today i can't even move and all i want to do is eat. i am sick to death of daily life and never going anywhere and never seeing anyone but Bob. he has nothing to talk about so repeats the same things over and over and over and i get to the point i want to scream. you would never know how i feel by the blog"

    I retired in 2006, he retired in 97... for 14 years we have been together for 24/7 of most days. BEFORE pandemic, we went to YMCA and he flew little planes and we had maybe 2 hours a day apart. we have now been in this house for over a year and I could tell you tails you might not believe.. so Yes you are NOT alone.. I am sorry for laughing at most of your post, but I needed to laugh and why cry, it changes nothing. I also know that when you are in pain and have health issues the hubby desire to scream escalates..
    one more thing.. He said where are the potatoes you saved for me to cook with my breakfast? In the round bowl with gray lid. I don't see it. I yell down the hall ITS THE ONLY ROUND BOWL and THE ONLY GRAY LID. I had to storm down the hall and point to it. NUFF SAID

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  3. Hi Susan - not having a hubby ... I just suffer my own stupidities - but lack of common sense seems to be there! You'd have thought they'd have been able to work their way round your work ... but 'men' or husbands ... we survive with much frustration. Good luck with the healing - must be so frustrating ... stay safe and at peace with life. Hilary

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  4. I was smiling as I read this, been there, for sure! My husband is the very same. Suppress the urge to scream? Oh yes, yes I do ! Lol

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  5. Oh yes, I think wanting to scream at husbands is a universal thing. Not sure the male half of humanity would last very long without us. Of course, I do love mine and he does help me a lot. But sometimes he "helps" with something I never asked for his help with, and that's when things go wrong. Alana ramblinwitham.blogspot.com

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  6. I hope your healing speeds up.
    My partner has an infuriating habit of looking with his mouth rather than his eyes. The phrase 'where is my...' or worse 'where did you put my...' does make me want to scream.

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  7. I only live with two dogs now and they never stop looking for their next treat, their next meal, their next walk. And the retriever is always asking for my help to get her orange balls out from under the couch.

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  8. Deep sigh. Does he not know not to mess with your stuff?

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  10. quote: ..... They know about physics and the elements table, but cannot remember where they left the car keys or how to set the sprinkler system.
    I keep telling my Sherry that is my problem, TOO smart for my own good!, Her reply, "Yeah right!"
    You girls are sweet to put up with us!

    I nee a proof reader, I am so smart!......

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  11. My Sweetie loses everything multiple times a day. Keys, glasses, wallet, phone, everything. As far as he's concerned, it's always an emergency. As far as i am concerned, no it isn't.

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  12. Mine misplaces things then wonders (aloud!) where I put them!

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  13. When my ex was still with me I struggled to not scream a lot. I'm not a smarty-pants myself, but he didn't understand jokes or sarcasm or one liners. When you have to explain a joke to someone who then says I still don't get it what does it mean, you end up keeping your mouth shut a lot.

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  14. The one thing that drives me craziest is when I offer to get him something, or make some food, or take his snack wrappers to the kitchen on my way... and he says, "If you want to."

    NOT-HEAVEN, NO! Of course I don't WANT to! He could at least say, "Sure, thanks." Or a simple, "Yes." I admit there are times when I've said, "Never mind. I really DON'T want to."

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  15. My partner has a really, really high IQ, but cannot change a light bulb.

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    1. He has that skill, but he has to find the bulb first.

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  16. I hope you are recovering. There is NO partner here. The cats don't count when it comes to IQ. Lots of people used to tell me I was stupid, dumb, or not thinking. I could remember math, science, English, etc., but didn't remember small things. It took getting my Ph.D. before I realized I was NOT dumb, just forgetful. My mind is often preoccupied with the next problem because I've already figured out the current problem before everyone else have identified it.

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    1. I taught gifted students, who sound just like that.

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  17. I've now spouse these days...and haven't had one for many, many years.

    I hope you're doing much better...and are healing well. Keep taking good care. :)

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  18. I'm thankful my wife doesn't have the patience to read blogs because she'd scream out loud and jump up and down on this one. I'm far from brilliant, but I cook, bake, clean, fix things and have the patience of a saint, but my absentmindedness, procrastination and poor memory really get her going at times. The memory part has me worried as my mom suffered with memory problems in the final years before she passed away.

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  19. Of course I resist the urge! I had to laugh though. I'd say every two or three weeks, at least once a month, Rick will call and say, "Can you come help me find my...." This week it was the Visa card. Once it was a rather sizeable check. All kinds of things. I once lost my madeleine pan for a year (I ordered another and eventually found the original crammed in the seat cushions of the sofa. Don't ask.) So I'm not sure why he picks me or why I can easily find his stuff but not mine but there you have it!

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  20. I think we are just about equal when it comes to misplacing things, or stowing things away in a place where we are sure to find them, a safe place so to speak, but of course we forget five minutes later where that was!

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