Tuesday, June 23, 2020

Who really cares?

A powerhouse
Eleanor Roosevelt was a powerhouse during FDR’s presidency. Her commitment to providing contributions to the military, their soldiers, their families should never be forgotten. 

She was active in securing in Women's Rights. She was an active part in working with League of Women Voters and the Women’s Trade Union League. She surrounded herself with politically astute women such as Molly Dewson.


You would not worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.  Eleanor Roosevelt

Each person, at some time or another, believe that people are looking at them with negative thoughts.  Not for sure, but they have been examined and judged, maybe.

It works like this: the 20-40-60 rule.

When at age 20, you worry about everything.  Am I too fat? Am I wearing the right clothes? Am I scrawny and weak? What about my acne? ….

I sure had those thoughts.  And then, at age 40, you do not care about what others think about you.

Okay, I wasn’t all that sure. 

But when at age 60, a big revelation dawns on you: Nobody was thinking about you in the first place.

Well, it took me long enough.



45 comments:

  1. How I wish I might have sat at Eleanor's knee and taken a page from her philosophy. Here, I'm 70 y/o and still concern myself over what people think.

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    1. I can't even imagine how amazing that would be, to talk with her.

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  2. Yes, I think that 20-40-60 rule is right! And as they also say: "too soon old, too late smart."

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    1. My teen gr-daughters keep my language current. Apparently, instead of being cool is being "lit". There are many others, which are sneaking into my language (to interpret). So, I am hovering between ages. 60 years are good.

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  3. I disagree with the common thought that only the young are beautiful. As a woman ages, her real beauty comes out and through her love, her caring, her intelligence, her compassion and most of all her strength of character. She holds up the family and therefore the world. My mom was most beautiful at 80. I think you have aged well, Susan, both inside and outside. I know that many people think about you. You are a very lovely person.

    I have admired Eleanor Roosevelt for most of my life. My family did not, so I read up on her and especially read her columns. I formed my own opinion and glad I did. Strong, opinionated women were not looked upon with much respect then, but times have changed, or have they.

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    1. She was quite an intelligent woman. She dealt with problems of common man, military, women and children's needs.

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  4. Very interesting post and I really never thought about Eleanor Roosevelt. When I was in school I paid no attention at all to history world or country. I wish I had listened and paid more attention and I do agree with the 20 40 60 now that I'm 75 I await to see what will change at at

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    1. There is nothing for 80s as far if anyone is noticing people of that age. There is not, so how about "Don't mess with her. She knows too much."

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  5. That should have said change at at which is only 4 years away from me ouch

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    1. Don't worry. You're cool enough to handle it.

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  6. It has been a long time since I worried about what others thought of me. I want my children to be proud of me and that is all that matters.

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    1. Really, that is true. I hate them start the 20-40-60 rule march.

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  7. She was a very wise (and busy) woman.
    Sadly my slow learning self STILL worries about what people might think (despite knowing that my age makes me invisible and they probably don't think about me at all).

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    1. Same here. I still tug my shirt and suck in my belly.

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  8. Very true. I spent so much of my youth so concerned about how I presented. Now, not so much.

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    1. Eh, not so much for me either. And I am in the upper 60s.

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    1. She was such an elegant woman with so many skills.

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  10. Eleanor Roosevelt was an amazing person and an important historical figure. I have read a biography of FDR but not of her. I really should read a book about her specifically.

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    1. At some lady's mtg, the guest speaker was the daughter of Eleanor R.'s secretary. The facts and stories she shared were so precious. She made the First Lady all the more real.

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  11. Never cared, even less so now, but my cat isn't thinking of me? Geez

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  12. This is so true, and so hard to learn here in Satan's playground of pride: It isn't all about you.

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  13. I remember her. I respected her, even on the radio she had a 'strange voice' of course all I had ever heard was us folks from the south.
    That said, now that Iam old I see more and more quotes that show wisdom. Funny, Myra above (Mevely317) states what even many of my peers (at 80+) feel and act. Me, I am me, finally! (well just about!lol)
    very good post...
    Sherry & jack

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    1. Some people have a talent for pulling a few words and putting them together. Some are very profound.

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  14. I'm happy with being pretty much invisible right now.

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  15. I love that quote. I've never cared what others thought of me, but do have to remind others now and again that "people have enough on their own mind without thinking about you"

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    1. Same here. I have always been body-conscious (my brothers were good at labeling me as fat when I was 10 to 16). Even now, I still feel that way as if it were true, and that everyone was noticing that.

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  16. I'm 50 now and don't care what anyone thinks about me not that anyone is thinking about me.

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    1. I am 68 and have finally reached, almost reached that point.

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  17. I'd never hear of the 20-40-60 rule. I knew of the mind over matter rule. I don't mind, and they don't matter.

    God bless.

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  18. One of the most remarkable women in the world. What a fun and interesting post, Susan! (And thanks for popping by recently!)

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  20. I don't care much for people's opinion of me. If I did, I wouldn't get anything accomplished. I guess I cared about the missing p in the first comment though. :)

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    1. You must be a perfectionist. But then, I am the same.

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  21. That quote is purrfect. As is the 20-40-60 rule.
    Thanks for sharing.

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  22. If i were all that concerned about what others thought of me, i would have worn make-up, and eventually started coloring my hair. You have to fight me to get me into lipstick and mascara, and the hair is an absolute no (except that i would like to color the gray purple when i retire and don't have to worry about getting fired).

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Go ahead...it won' t hurt...I'd love to hear what you think!