He who blinks first, loses.
This is what I learned as a child when facing down a brother or another aggressive boy on the playground. Hold your ground. Invade personal space. Close in for the kill. AND never blink first.
This is important: He who blinks first, loses.
As a young mother, I learned the importance of holding my position on naps (everyone takes one in the afternoon, including me) until my oldest child was almost 9 years old. Having three stair-step children, I bent over and drew my eyes level with theirs.
“You will take a nap today. A good long nap.” They blinked. I didn’t. The nap wars fought and won, because I didn’t blink first.
When teaching, the teacher must hold the line on so many discipline issues: raising the hands to speak, asking permission, respecting another student’s right to exist, etc. Staring down thirty + children requires practice and experience. It must be done with firmness and, most of all, with kindness.
|Timothy Olyphant stare|
He is the hands-down champion of full on stare.
That was when all the skills in the first paragraph had to go into the game. The teacher has to win this—rest of the class has to know that standards of behavior are listed on the wall for a reason.
When not playing poker for big bucks, or trying to convince a three-year old that he will stay out of the flour canister, blinking is fine. Blink away to your heart’s content.
But, when one absolutely must win a situation, keep those eyes open, piercing into the other eyes with deadly aim, and impose your will. Good luck, soldier.