Monday, July 15, 2019

About Joy


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Time comes in all lives when a person says “That’s enough…I’m done…”  Turning off the tractor, closing the grade book, handing over the keys and walking away.

Point of this post:

Recognize when it is time to stop, to walk away.

You know when it is time, you can feel it.  Do not deny the hip, knee, or shoulder.  Do not ignore pain or sense of exhaustion. Growing old is serious business.

A number of issues forced me to retire from teaching, a good ten years early.  Pain took me out. Changes in state requirement were strangling teachers and education.


Mainly, joy was leaving me. 


When that joy is gone, it is time to stop, to walk away, and head to something that returns joy to you.


Have you done that? Can you do that? 




Robert Louis Stevenson quote




64 comments:

  1. I gave 28 years to teaching. In the middle of that, I walked away to do other work for six years, then returned. I definitely knew when it was time to walk away for good. That said, the last year was one of the most enjoyable. It was full of LAST TIMEs. It took a full year after that to gradually let the teacher in me fade away.

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    1. The teacher in me still thinks about those years. The last year for me was pure hell. When there is a creative teacher, her classroom is given behavior problem students.

      Leaving then was easier.

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  2. I was forced to give up something I took pride in which filled me with joy. It wasn't an easy journey by any means, but I have found different sources of joy now. And hope to give it as well as receive it.

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    1. You do, in more ways that can be known. Seeing your site fills me with joy.
      Esp. when there are corellas.

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  3. oh that is so nice on paper. reality is we lost our jobs at age 50 and 51...my pension was taken. I cashed in 401 to live. now I,at 63 in pain and have no joy. don't know how I will will ever retire. its scary. but hanging there with no friggin joy and medical issues. yee haa!😊

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    1. Oh, this is scary. I have known many many cases like this. I am sorry that this is yours.

      Keep healthy, keep going as long as you can.

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  4. I hate to give up, even when I am hanging on by my fake fingernails, but time comes when I have to be practical and move on. In those cases, relief soon appears and it feels so good.

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    1. Knowing when it is time...more important that anything when reaching that age. Think about what you gain and compare it to what you are leaving.

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  5. I took early retirement at 60 and it gave me GREAT JOY INDEED, lol.

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  6. Hi Susan - I had to stop to be with my mother, and my father's BIL ... took up blogging and now need to settle and earn some extra to make life comfortable. Blogging has been a breath of fresh air - i.e. positiveness when all around me is a challenge - cheers for now - Hilary

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    1. Blogging has been a joy for me. Meeting friends through blogging is also a joy.

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  7. THIS IS GOOD! Up until now I have done well knowing when it was time to xxxxxxx. At 80 I still hold an uptodate contractor's license. You said it about the 'added paperwork requirements' of teaching. Many areas I have seen it. Someone pushing paper who did not have to jump thru the hoops to get there, think of 'hoops' that would be great, and add them.
    I just read a notice that after over 40 years of building, I will have to attend 'school' and send proof of #hours to renew my license. That is not a biggie except for contractors I know who work 70-80 hours a week and still they are expected to take some courses OUCH!
    Sorry to write a book, but now we are facing the serious time, KNOWING THE TIME FOR US TO CHANGE GEARS in our life style, and it really is 'challenging!'
    I think I already said it, but this is 'really' good stuff today, 'Teach'.
    Sherry & jack Enjoying fresh corn in Lancaster county.

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    1. Write a book at any time, Jack.

      In Chatham, they are ordering the corn for this wkend festivities. 12,000 ears or 50,000 lbs. Figure the work that will be. Shucking will happen on Thursday.

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  8. Been there, done that ; not for joy (there is no joy afterwards, only relief) but to give myself a chance of staying alive.
    I feel sad when looking at people who try hard to convince themselves they love their work and way of life,spend lots of time and money on all kinds of experts, activities and gadgets supposed to heal and help. No real results. The solution lies within ourselves.

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    1. Making decisions is so hard sometimes. You are so correct.

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  9. I have done that. The joy of leaving my job was so glorious -- I don't know a better gift to myself. The last two of 32 years were tough ones, mentally, physically and professionally and leaving opened a complete new and joyful world to me.

    Right now my greatest "knowing when to walk away" challenge is when I am painting and I KNOW I need to leave it for awhile but pulling myself away is tough!

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    1. You said this so well. I am with you all the way.

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  10. Oh I knew it was over all right...I retired at 62...should have never started in the first place but 'needs must' as the saying goes. At least it got me a pension and benefits. Other things I should walk away from are not so easy and I likely never will. Joy???? Well, relief as someone above said and a feeling of freedom to some extent. Good post today Susan........really good.

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    1. Glad it speaks to you. It is something on my mind.

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  11. I gave up my graphic design business years ago as I just wasn't enjoying it anymore, and then decided to become a dj, but now I'm wondering if I'm getting a bit too old to do it. Not that I can't, but people expect dj's to be young, and although I feel like I'm still 21 I don't look it!

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    1. I understand what you are saying about looking younger and feeling like you are 21 (47 for me). Don't give it up you are ready to find one that gives you joy.

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  12. I hated Detroit from the moment I arrived there. There was no work in Iowa at the time so my husband and I stayed. We had four children in the city. By the time we divorced my children were grown and working in auto related industries. I was not grown up enough to leave my children. I finally moved back home a few years ago and am so content I cannot even find words to express.

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    1. You expressed this very well. And you expressed it very well.

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  13. Yes, please. Preach it! Because of foolish fiduciary choices earlier in life, I thought I was not in any position to retire. Unfortunately, by the time I reached 67 my despair (strong word, but accurate) was such there was no joy to be found. Anywhere. The last 15 months, living life in the 'slow lane' are some of the happiest times I've ever experienced.

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    1. Same here. I got to hold our gr-daughters from the day they were born. Now they are teens.

      Good idea indeed.

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  14. A great post, a great reminder. I retired early too, my diabetes was horrible before I got the pump. Then I went back and worked part-time at UCLA for 12 years, worked on my health, walked to the bus and took it to work, found joy in many things. My retirement check is nowhere near as large as it would have been had I stayed on for those 12 years, but had I done it, I may not have survived. So I'm happy about my decision.

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    1. It was a very good decision to retire. Your healthy is all that matters.

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  15. I think this is something I probably need to do - not with my job but with a terrible habit I should stop! I love that Coehlo quote - going to save that pic. :)

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    1. It is a hard to do, retire.

      That quote is perfect.

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  16. Crucial life question. I've still got a few more years before I qualify for early retirement but even so, I wonder if I could use a change. It is awfully nice to have the summer to reset. You don't get that in other professions.

    Sounds like you left at the right time for yourself.

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  17. Susan:
    I think a lot of us have some idea of when to walk away (when joy leaves), but there can also be those times when the challenge of pushing further to whatever goal we're seeking can provide that jy.
    It's indeed up to us to determine the "IF" and "WHEN".

    Finding joy can be easy (and unexpected)...SUSTAINING it is the more difficult path.

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  18. Oh trust me, I know when to walk away, but being able to do it isn't always within one's ability. As one needs a paycheck and to avoid living under the bridge.

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    1. So true. it was a conflict for me as well.

      There are some pretty nasty things under-the-bridge.

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  19. Bobby G's wife can attest to how true, and how hard, this is. I have been blessed in most part, the only things I've had to walk away were bad for me anyway- not that it made it easy.

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    1. We know, but we keep pushing the idea away. Someday that idea sounds pretty good.

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  20. Such a succinct statement of stop and evaluate!

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  21. It's nice to be able to walk away when one needs to. Some people feel trapped, though.

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    1. We had to cut down on expenses when I retired. Not much else to do about.

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  22. So true. I took early retirement a few years ago and then decided to go into business with my son almost 2 years ago. I told him June 1st of next year is my 'done date'. Thankfully, I love what I do but I want to have a few years to enjoy life -a bit laid back and easy--something that has seemed to escape me in the past.

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    1. Good decision to work with your son. Good decision on setting a date, to give him time to get arranged.

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  23. My work is not joy, it is groceries. What i do online is joy, meeting with friends is joy, church is joy.

    Retirement is a long way off, too.

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    1. We work to pay bills, put food on the table, etc. Sometimes that work is fulfilling and sometimes it is just drudgery.

      Blogging has motivated me to write more, complete some projects. Glad to have found you.

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  24. dear Susan i did teaching job in my life three times ,just once i was selected at teacher but twice they hired me as principal yet i insist to teach some subjects as it was my passion

    this is absolutely PRECIOUS post
    yes being old is serious thing and exhaustion must be taken wisely

    you made wise decision at and time ,taking care of your own self is equally important but even MORE
    because if you are fit and healthy all around you are look after well

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    1. Well said, Baili. I didn't remember that you taught. You blessed so many lives.

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  25. Pain took me away from work too. Physical pain and emotional stress. when I worked in the shoe factory, I'd bounce out of bed each morning and skip off to work, happy as can be, but when I worked as a checkout operator, I'd haul myself out of bed, drag my feet getting to work and watching the clock to see how much longer before I could go home again. No joy there. It's been six years since I quit and while I'm happier now, I'm still not the me I used to be.

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    1. It seems we take some emotional scar tissue with us when we leave a job that took joy. I know i still do.

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  26. Great advice. Not always easy to follow; but still great advice.

    God bless.

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  27. I hope you find continued peace with your decision. As I've found so many times, when we think we're being shoved out of something (and we don't think it's for us), we're just actually just going through another door to find another awesome adventure. Take care of that pain though.

    May God bless you and guide through this next installment of life. :)

    Teresa

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    1. Oh, thank you, Teresa.

      You are absolutely correct. God is our ultimate Guide.

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  28. Early retirement was the best decision I made. Had to adjust my finances but it has worked well for me. Enjoying life in the slow lane. :)

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    1. So true. You give us great views of Ireland and I appreciate that so much.

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  29. Dear Susan, yes, back in the mid-nineties I found no joy any longer in developing Roman Catholic religious curriculum. So I gave it up and found other work to do. I've never regretted that. And as I age, I find again and again I must let go of something or some way of being and find a new path that gives me a new enjoyment. A new blessing. Peace.

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    1. Dee, that is beautifully stated. "...again and again I must let go of something" It can be hard to stay the course.

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  30. I realize joy in life is different for everyone. Some take it for granted while for others accident, illness and injury can be a real life changer.

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    1. Those who are suffering hopefully discover joy in the most unexpected places.

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  31. When you n longer find joy in something it's time to stop doing that thing.

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    1. Time to walk away, stop. The key to seeking change lies in exploration.

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  32. so true dear Susan that brilliant memory is both blessing and curse sometimes

    best part of your horrible story is that you did not become a victim but you got away and this is reliving memory i bet!

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