Sunday, November 4, 2018

Measure of a Man

American soldier walking with his daughter : Stock Photo
Hold my hand, daughter.
God, history, and hormones arranged how each gender performed in a family unit. Who did what? Man and Woman with their progeny struggled to survive in a sometimes harsh life. 

Man=hunt, impregnate, and kill. Woman=give birth, care for children, gather. Pretty straightforward, wouldn't you say? 

Some would say that there has been a radical turn-around. While many parts of this mixture remain solid, others shift around a bit. Given the changes in society and its needs, change in inevitability is natural.

Whether there is a dad or a mom in the home does not change a primary focus:
their family.


Mother's Day
Men walk through a mall carrying a pink diaper bag.  Women wear combat fatigues when walking their children to school. Men return from work on a motorcycle. Women take the cycle and head out. Men make quilts while women repair pipes. Men and Women both cook. Some better than others.

Things change, things stay the same. 

  It takes a real man to feel safe in his role, whether it has changed or not.

It takes a real man to accept what he will do, what he can do.

It takes a real man to be the husband or partner to his beloved while both hold onto their family unit. 

And, it takes a real man to change a diaper. 









32 comments:

  1. I've never had to change a diaper but I'm still secure in my manhood.

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    1. If you make bucket list someday, make "changing a diaper" one of the entries?

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  2. There are a few people i know who should read this.

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  3. Nothing on Earth is set in stone


    except stone.

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    1. Profound thought there. Stone has a mystery all of it's own.

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    2. I cannot believe is misspelled "its own". Time change.

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  4. Men who are confident in themselves don't care what others think. They can be free to show love for their families and that includes all the chores that involves as well. And don't forget the men and women who made them feel that confidence.

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  5. Doing the right thing crossed boundaries. Including the arbitary gender boundaries.

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    1. It just had to break through ingrained standards.

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  6. Great share, Susan! He doesn't need to change a whit, but I'm happy to share this with my son

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  7. I changed a bunch of diapers on twins yesterday and this morning, dressed, bathed, brushed teeth, fed, and occupied them. Guess I'm good lol

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    1. Pat!! You have majorly impressed me! Twins, no less!

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  8. My Retired Man was a diaper changer, food shopper, and vacuum man. He was and is a great dad. Truly, when it came to homelife, it was 70% me, but that was my generation and if men want to stay married today, it better be 50/50.

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  9. My son-in-law is such a man. Hands on, everything shared, from before the wedding and continuing today, even with the babies being in their twenties now.

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  10. I love that the lines have blurred. I grew up that way with an amazing Dad who learned to cook, clean and place bandages when my Mom grew more ill. And he was of the hunter, warrior generation.

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    1. Isn't is amazing that your dad could do all of that?!

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  11. So long as everyone is secure in the family unit, it shouldn't matter what role each person fills.

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    1. The family unit is the focus or at least should be. Mom or Dad, they take care of that family.

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  12. You're right about real men and diapers! Even I don't like doing that!

    Thanks for coming by Marmelade Gypsy today!

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    1. Congrats on the cookbook! I enjoyed your blog. Will be back.

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  13. I changed many diapers. I guess I cleared the bar.

    I love being a dad. Real men nurture.

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    1. Your babies feel that love and caring. You are special dad in so many ways.

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  14. I liked this post. I am an ardent believer in the inevitability of change. Nothing has remained the same forever, and gender roles are no exception. As long as the work gets done, it is immaterial who does what, is it not?

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    1. Good to meet you! You are absolutely correct.

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  15. I've done plenty of diaper changing in my time. That's one role that I don't mind giving up. There are many things from the past that I lament seeing pass, but it's good to see more fathers participating more in the upbringing of their children.

    Arlee Bird
    Tossing It Out

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    1. The importance of the father's involvement in his family cannot be minimized.
      Diapers? I sure don't miss them. Not at all.

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  16. Being from Asian Muslim country I feel so LUCKY to have an ideal man
    Most Responsible person I ever saw

    Your post is one of best I ever read.so true very nicely written!

    Hugs!

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Go ahead...it won' t hurt...I'd love to hear what you think!