Monday, April 16, 2018

Leaving Legacies


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Unknown name, Journey Cemetery, Hull IL
When I write at my blog, Susan Kane, Writer (right bar, bridge) photos left to me by my parents, grandparents, and back are part of my thinking.  Why do I need to remember them?

Mainly because the stories told to me reach all the way back to the 1820s when my combined parentage were just settling into what became my home.  Their struggles became imprinted on my brain.  Their lives and characters also resonated with today's lives and characters.

One great-great grandfather traveled from Ohio to Illinois in order to settle his parents in our town, then named Monument.  In doing so, he had to leave his pregnant wife and one child.  "I'll be back" but he did not return.  Eventually, his brother returned to inform her that he had married another woman.  She too remarried. It was a time period when not everyone who headed West came back. (There are more details around this, much juicier details.)

His descendants in Monument (now renamed Nebo) mostly led Godly lives and positively affected those around them.

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Who this was, none remember.
What a legacy to leave!  And what a long-term story that won't fade or be forgotten! Yet, when one walks through a long abandoned cemetery, the names and lives led are faded out of memories, with only toppled over headstones marking that they had ever walked the lands surrounding them.

And yet, whoever viewed that grave in 1863, went on to live and leave their own places.  And those people led to more and more descendants, and someone among them will be remembered.


Find Us Faithful as sung by Steven Green



I sure hope my life and life's work won't end up being a toppled over and niche-covered stone. I pray that my descendants can talk about that Susan Peck Kane, way back when, and smile at my own faithfulness.




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  1. I'm sure you and all you've done will be remembered.
    Bummer he remarried and never returned. Little rude.

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    1. Yes, he deserted his family, started over. Somewhere his progeny moved on, maybe knew the story of the missing father, or didn't.

      I know you will leave a legacy. Your books will speak for you.

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  2. I mingle with the youngsters of Laura's generation.They have their own lives and interests. They are polite, but their interests are their own. Even my own children are little interested. Once I thought it mattered. Now I see it doesn't. They have other lives to live.

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    1. You took your gr-kids in and raised them in a loving and secure environment. That will always be a legacy they will remember and tell stories.

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  3. I suspect that my life will disappear quite soon after I do. And am fine with that.

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    1. How can that be so? You have lived and shared your life with your posts and pictures. Whether or not you think you will fade away and disappear, you won't.

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  4. That was a bit dirty of him to do, never go back, geez. Once I'm toast I'll haunt people to make them remember lol

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  5. We all have our own journeys in this life. I don't know if it's important to leave a legacy behind us. But that's just my way of thinking.

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    1. I grew up in the community established in 1820s. Ancestors were part of our life stories. On Memorial Day, the local cemeteries were filled with people who brought flowers for graves of those long gone.

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  6. I've shared this quote from my Dad many times and in many places....."As long as someone says your name and tells the stories you will never die.' I guess the secret is to do something or say something memorable that people will keep talking about.

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  7. I decided many moons ago that I would not occupy a grave. To make sure I arranged and paid for my own funeral
    Me and my memories will depart this world happily and secure in the knowledge that I did my best!

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    1. We both have decided to be cremated. People move around so much they is no family cemetery as there were in my childhood.

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  8. Dear Susan, what an inspiring song "Find Us Faithful" is. I've never before heard it. Is it a new song or an old hymn. As a Roman Catholic many years ago, I never heard hymns in church, so I really know very few.

    I suspect that the memories you leave behind will be filled with laughter and curiosity and a fine, seeking intelligence. Peace.

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    1. So glad you enjoyed the song. I heard it at a women's retreat. It had such an impact on me.

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  9. I will never be remembered for anything important but I hope that those who loved me will smile when they remember me.

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    1. I am telling my gr-daughters stories about her mother, me, and my gr-parents. The stories are what I want them to remember about me.

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  10. It's alarming how fast important people to us are forgotten. My grandmother who was my world, isn't remembered by 3 of my 4 kids, because she passed when they were little or not born. Nothing I can say will evoke the feelings I had, but they will have the stories. I also have the pictures, and those will go to my daughter who though she didn't know my grandma, will cherish them the most. :)

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    1. The stories passed down the generations are the important things. Those old b/w photos are part of my writing, so maybe they will learn about these people. I am scanning most of them so they will be digital. Your grandma must have been special.

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