Monday, February 26, 2018

We Are Who We Are



When one walks into our home, one could guess that we just moved in and lived in perpetual scattered messes. Well, it is not as bad as all that, but I look at it with dismayed eyes. We are messy, in a community where it seems that other people live organized lives.  

Oddly enough, my house was very tidy when my children were little.  Maybe it was that a toddler or crawler was wandering around, or that I was a stay-at home mom. But things morphed when they grew to be teenagers who left a trails or heaps of stuff.  Then they moved out. (see below what they became as adults) 
Now all the messes around are our own.

We both are eclectic people with our own talents and interests.

He is all math and science, a huge bridge fanatic. Around his recliner, one will find books on bridge, astronomy, science fiction, and investing. 

I am all color and art, with writing as my joy. Around my chair, there is no mess. But on the table, my computer is surrounded  by printouts, post-its, rough drafts being edited, and photos.

When one combines those two, there is and will always be a mess.

So if and when someone visits, we will close doors to our "creative" rooms, hoping that visitors will focus on art around and on the walls. Will go "ahhhh" at quilts commanding parts of their own walls.   Will smile at our collection of family photos. Will nod with appreciation at my laptop on the dining table, knowing that I am a writer, one who writes everyday.
Being as we are, I believe our messes will be understood and maybe even admired.

Well, not admired, but at least understood.


A quilt for my daughter

My sister made this for me.  She is so precious.

Anatole Krasnyansky
Are we alone in this?  Do you have a flare of your own, resulting in a mess? Oh, please say yes.


50 comments:

  1. Sorry, only one photo is appearing. I guess you are hiding your mess!
    I confess, we are really neat. Even a messy closet gets to me.

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  2. I have the same problem with photos at the moment, Susan! Your title made me think of the book I have just ordered, Composing A Life by Mary Catherine Bateson, the daughter of anthropologist Margaret Mead.

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    1. I went back, replaced and updated them with ones that should show up. Sounds like a thoughtful book.

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  3. I could not see the pictures either, but just imagined my own home in them. Very neat homes show nothing (except that they employ a cleaning service), busy homes show minds still working. At this point in life, that is what I want.

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    1. Dang! When I previewed before publishing, they were there! But hopefully the update will help or solve the problem.

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  4. My desk is very small and appears to have exploded in stuff. I cannot walk through my granddaughter's room. The living room and kitchen are neat, neat, neat.

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    1. My kitchen is neat, as are the bathrooms. But the LR is the problem.

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  5. Your mess must be shy...no photos except for the gift for your daughter. Do we have a mess? Oh yess! My knitting takes up one endtable...there are newspapers in the middle of the couch along with my huge magnifying glass and my office....well...we won't go there okay.

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  6. A desk stacked full of drafts, posts and print-outs means someones busy with work but these days computers are taking over I guess or at least cutting the paper in half.

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    1. Yes, computers are amazing in that regard. I hope they don't disappear, or my writing will go with it.

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  7. oh yes, that's us too. my mom bought us a sign that says, "Sorry for the mess, but we live here." i have another that says, "I cleaned my house last week. Sorry you missed it."

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    1. I love that first one! I have the second, but it is too small to be noticed. time to update.

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  8. Understood is the way at least haha my ocd keeps me neat at our sea.

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  9. I have stacks of boxes, each containing a knitting project. Does that count?

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    1. Yes, I think it does. But being in boxes makes them less messy.

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    2. The pictures are there now. Those quilts are stunning.

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  10. Actual dirt is unacceptable, I'm talking days worth of unwashed dishes, filthy bathrooms, all surfaces sticky and unwashed. But mess is fine, everybody has mess in one form or another, it's just stuff that is always in use.

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    1. Dirty is one thing which gets attacked. Mess is a different type of dog altogether.

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  11. Dear Susan, my home, too, is messy, but it feels to me so comfortable. So welcoming. I hope that's how family members and friends feel when they stop by.

    I'm wondering if you are still working on the biography of your parents. For a while you were writing absolutely engrossing stories about them. That was back in 2014 and before. Have you continued?

    My passion also is writing and reading--I have stacks of books around the house with many green plants. I'm getting ready to publish my convent memoir on March 21--that's the feast day of St. Benedict and I was a Benedictine. It's called "Prayer Wasn't Enough" and I'm trying to think of ways to get the word out as you did for your daughter's book a few months ago. The writing of it was so therapeutic. I'm grateful that I took on the remembering of those foundational years of my life. They didn't feel like "clutter" but I realized in writing just how "messed" up my brain was then! Peace.

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    1. Yes, I am writing on my family, and improving my approach. thanks for asking. Prayer Wasn't Enough? I'll post that one.

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  12. Hi Susan, I couldn't view all the pictures but the ones I saw--the wall art--were magnificent. It sounds like a home full of creativity, knowledge, love and comfort.

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    1. We are definitely in those words.

      I hope the photos are okay now.

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  13. Pictures 1-2-4-5 still didn't load, but the rest are beautiful. I love quilted things, but can't do them myself, they just don't turn out right and are too fiddly to keep trying with. I don't have the space anymore either.

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    1. My quilts these days are very simple. Arthritis really takes a hit on me.

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  14. We live the same way. Books account for 90% of our clutter, if not more.

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    1. When my gr-sons were here at Christmas, our stacks had to be removed for then. Those stacks are re-appearing.

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  15. Dear Susan, all the photos are up and are both colorful and intriguing! Peace.

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  16. Lovely to hear from you, too Susan and the blog is great now that it has been restored. Now full time carer for my husband, completing an MA on Angela Carte, so life far from normal. Much love, Carole.

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    1. You live such a challenging life! Your writing is as awesome as ever. And, no matter what gets tossed at you, you rise.

      Thanks for checking my post. My own computer said photos were up, but I think it sees what is in my photos files.

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  17. Hi Susan,
    I could see them all! Thanks for inviting us to visit:)

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  18. I'm the Head Mess...the Mess Leader!

    I once managed the Mess for the single miners working at Collinsville Coal Mine.

    Be yourself; be and do and live how and with what makes you most comfortable. (If that makes any senses...my explanation appears a little messy)! :)

    Photos are visible by me, too.

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    1. Single coal miners, I can imagine the mess. thanks for stopping by!

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  19. I can see all your pictures now, thank you. Love the statue, is that Plato?

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    1. No, he is an unknown person. We call him "The Warrior". Thanks for confirming the photos. Had to wrestle with the computer to get them.

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  20. Never fear, the slob is here! Okay, I wouldn't exactly call myself a slob (well, maybe?). My husband and I both hold onto things more than we should, so that leads to some clutter. Like yours, my house was super clean when there were babies and toddlers, but once they got big enough to spread their messes around and not randomly eat things left on the floor, my house got messier. Love the description of what's by each of your chairs.

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    1. We should organize a club "Fellow Messy Houses".

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  21. Yes, we have a mess. Not a really bad mess (except in my office) but there are things that are scattered about that probably don't need to be where they are. But our home is comfortable and it's ours. And it's not really dirty so no reason to call the health department. I've been trying to scale down and get rid of stuff. Maybe one day it will be easier to organize what little is left. If we ever get to that downsized point.

    Arlee Bird
    Tossing It Out

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    1. Great to know you are in the ranks!

      Downsizing is a challenging event. Every item seemed to bring up memories. Best of luck!

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  22. I wish this house was as messy as yours! By the way, I sent you email earlier today.

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    1. Thanks, Jerry. Got your email. Will respond after I finish battling my computer.

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  23. I have a paper problem. No matter how many times I've said 'it's time to clean this up for good,' I always end up going back to having stacks of paper to sort through 'later.' Later never comes and I end up with stacks of paper. I now have a Rubbermaid bucket that I put them in, a BIG one. It makes 'later' take even longer because I can't see them, lol. Terrible habit, but no longer messy, unless you open the bucket lid... ;) I love the quilts!!

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    1. Paper mess is the worst. It is always in the 'later' position of cleaning up. In fact, going through the paper is almost an archeological dig.

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