Tuesday, October 3, 2017

Sisters Hold Each Other Up


Mary is my only sister, with three brothers who made our lives a living hell at times. While I was vulnerable in many ways, Mary gave them a smug smile and blasted them out of their turbulent waters with acerbic honest words. I do not have enough words to relate who she is, how she blesses my life and my admiration for her. 


Mary and Bill, running away from home (I love this photo.)

Mary is holding her horsey, I am holding my new bride doll (Christmas 1958).

Mary is stubborn, especially when it comes to her children.  Maybe it should be said a "Stubborn and Fierce Tiger".  Mary was always devoted to excellent teaching and education, and did not accept anything less. 

In fact, I always said that when Mary stepped on elementary school grounds, the earth shook.  Teachers shivered in fear, stood up straight and tall, and resolved to be better teachers from there on. 

Mary is a fighter.

She is generous, in time and giving.  Many of her friends have had surgeries and illnesses, some very serious.  Mary is always there, giving food for the family and assistance in any way needed. Driving to a doctor's appointments? Helping around the house? Anything else?  Mary gives of herself unfailingly.

Mary has a black belt in Taekwondo, along with a red strip to advance her to higher levels.  Don't mess with her.

She completes projects she starts.  This cannot be said of many people, if not most people.

I won't volunteer her for a gold medal or sainthood, because I have known her for the better part sixty years. This gives me info and insights that all families share about each other.

Recently, my quilting skills plummeted drastically.  Migraines, concussion, Bell's Palsy, and other issues have taken away aspects of quilting, including joy. This is incredibly saddening.



So many unfulfilled plans

This fabric was for a project that I had never begun.  Mary has an enormous stash (that means, shelves and boxes of fabric), yet was willing to add more to it.  God bless her.  These beautiful fabrics and plans had hung over my head, piling on guilt upon guilt.

Mary is a superb quilter AND I mean superb.  Her eye for colors and design is amazing.  And she loves patterns that involve sharp points and precision, as well as applique. Any quilter understands what a pain those can be. 

Mary created a magnificent quilt for me using fabric from her stash and the above fabric, excluding the solid teal.  She told me that a box was on its way to me and to call her when it arrived. When the box arrived and I lifted the quilt from it, I cried.  Hugging it to my chest, I went from our room to the guest room, laying this incredible quilt over each.








This quilt will be displayed on my "art wall". It was a family photos wall, but they can always go somewhere else. This absolutely has to be seen by more than just my eyes.

This gift has me opening up my own stash and perusing what can be made from all that fabric.  Already have a baby quilt in the works and I will finish a project started pre-concussion. 

Sisters are different from each other for sure. What stands true is that we share our lives past and present, and that we love each other as only sisters can. I am blessed to be a part of Mary's life.*



Minerva, Rosemary, Grandma Marie Cardiff, Mom, and Vada
August 1970 at a cousin's wedding


 As in every family, each was radically different from their siblings in every way possible. Despite their many differences, each loved the other passionately. All have passed except for Aunt Vada, who recently suffered a stroke.  

*I named our youngest daughter after my sister.  Like Aunt Mary, my daughter Mary is a tiger.  One cowers when she aims a withering look. Don't mess with her either.


24 comments:

  1. That is a truly beautiful and incredible quilt. I would have wept when it arrived too. Buckets of happy tears.

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    1. I still look at it as we prepare to hang it and change the ceiling "can lighting" to one with three adjustable spotlights. The quilt makes me happy.

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  2. You have a wonderful and giving sister indeed!

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    1. Not every sister can say that about her own sister.

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  3. The quilt is incredible. What a joy, impossible to see through tears. But, cry and snivel into a clean hankie, not the quilt.

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  4. How very nice of her to gift you with that quilt. It's great that you have such a good relationship with her.

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  5. I can feel the love you have for your sister coming through the screen here. I love my sister, but we aren't close, having lived apart for several years when we were young.
    That quilt is amazing :)

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    1. It truly is! Could you reconnect with your sister? Better to have no regrets as you age.

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  6. Sure sounds like a wonderful sister indeed. The quilt is very well done for sure.

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    1. Your writer/artist eye sees its construction.

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  7. A lovely tribute to your sister and a fabulous quilt indeed.

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  8. You are so blessed to have a sister like Mary and I am sure she feels the same about you. The quilt is magnificent and it definitely belongs where others can see and admire. I love that she has inspired you and hope that we will soon get to see your work.

    I believe you are also a strong woman, Susan, and a loving force in your family.

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  9. Thank you, I appreciate your praise. She called me yesterday and we were on the phone for an hour. We each said "I gotta go now" four times, and kept on talking.

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  10. Such a lovely tribute. And wow, what a quilt!

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    1. It amazes me how intricate it is and how its artist (Mary) could see that and work it out.

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  11. I have a badass older sister. It's good to have at least one in the family.

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    1. Those badass sisters keep things fresh and alive. Glad she is yours and mine is mine.

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  12. This made me miss family, but on a brighter note that picture of the two of them running away from home brings so much joy. It is priceless.

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  13. A great post, and that quilt is amazing ... lovely colours.

    All the best Jan

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  14. I enjoy your posts so much because they paint a very full and honest picture. And of course, when you add photos it gets even better. Well, that quilt, what a gift of skill and love it is, truly an heirloom piece. If you placed it on your bed you would be wrapped in love.

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