Monday, February 9, 2015

Art of Negotiation


Are you a good negotiator?  

When you were trying to get the car keys, did you manage to convince your parent how logical it would be?  To buy a used guitar for $25 instead of $35? To stay out past the curfew time?  To buy a used car way under the sticker price?

Did you succeed with other negotiations?  

Here is my 2 ½ year old grandson:

Benjamin:  We need an idea.  Let’s…watch TV.

Daddy:   No…we need a better idea.

Benjamin:  Let’s watch……TV.

Daddy:  No.

Benjamin:  We need another idea.  Let’s watch a movie.  On that TV.


To some, the art of negotiation is inborn; it 
comes with the genes.



35 comments:

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    1. He has wonderful verbal skills, is adorable, and has stubborn parents. He will keep trying.

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  2. lol well at least he changed it a bit. I always won, my arguing skills are top notch.

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  3. So did they..uh...watch, you know, the TV?

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  4. I take he won with that final argument?

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    1. Not a chance. His Daddy is quite unmovable; he's English.

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  5. 2 and 1/2 and already too aware of that TV. I can't say I was a good negotiator. When my folks said no, they explained why and that was pretty much the end of it.

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    1. Benjamin is allowed to watch only a certain amount of TV, and his parents stand firm on it.

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  6. The kid's got a good technique. I still use that method though it probably doesn't work quite the same as it would for a little kid.

    Arlee Bird
    A to Z Challenge Co-host
    Tossing It Out

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    1. The biggest factor are big blue eyes. How are you on that one?

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  7. No meant no when I was a child. Always. And if repeated meant no... in my room.
    Negotiation skills? Me? No.

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    1. Same here: no means no means no...My parents were quite firm on that. And so were we.
      No negotiation skills here either.

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  8. I can pretty much negotiate myself into or out of anything LOL.

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    1. Then you truly are blessed with the skill and gene!

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  9. Did he or didn't he, the little devil.

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    1. No, he didn't win. But his daddy had some big smiles in the re-telling.

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  10. He sounds like such a clown. I bet full of huge personality.

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    1. Lots of it, along with high intelligence. I love to watch him process what he has just been told, and how to use it to his advantage.

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    1. He won't and didn't win. His parents decided when they were 25 that they would be perfect parents. Now they are 34, and are learning a lot.

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  12. He's already got them wrapped around his finger

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  13. Sounds like me arguing with the middle schoolers today.

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    1. Except Benjamin does not do the eye-roll thing, which drives me crazy.

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  14. Sounds like Benjamin is a natural communicator to me. Good on him.

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    1. He has good command of his words and is very observant.

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  15. My kids negotiate much better than I ever did. Come to think of it, I never negotiated. Parents said, I did. We were raised not to question and there's a reason for that, which I understood even then.

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    1. Generally it was almost impossible to negotiate with my parents. The answer was no before the question was even posed.

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  16. He is one sharp kid, but good for his parents for sticking to their guns. I negotiate if I feel there's a chance for persuasion, but if I sense resistance, I will (rebelliously) quit trying. I had a dad who could be swayed, but not a mom.

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  17. There was no question when it came to a question like that. No. No. we were much the same. Now, I hope cuteness doesn't win over parenting.

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  18. What a cute picture!! I negotiated curfew. I never one, not even once. -_-

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  19. Your grandson is quite a smooth talker! He's also adorable like his dad!

    Julie

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Go ahead...it won' t hurt...I'd love to hear what you think!